I love asking my clients, “What’s the worst that could happen?”
No, I’m not secretly working on a worst case scenario handbook. I love talking about the worst that can happen, because it’s a powerful way to help break through worry and doubt.
So often, we get caught up in anxiousness, and we’re unable to get a clear picture on what we’re even afraid of. If you call it out and ask, “Okay, what am I *really* working with here?” you’re better able to deal with what you’re up against.
Think about it like the monster under your bed when you were a kid. Part of what made that monster scary is that you had no idea what you were dealing with — fangs? glowing eyes? claws?! — your imagination ran wild. Once you turned on the light and took a peek, you were back to reality. You could take a look and see what was really there, and that knowledge helped you move passed it.
We tend to do the same thing with our worries as adults. We let that monster grow into something bigger and bigger, and we get more and more anxious about what *could* happen. By taking the time to think about what’s the worst that can happen, we bring our fear into the light. It might feel uncomfortable at first, but it let’s us look at that worst case scenario in a logical way. To poke at it. To see what’s really grounded in reality, and what’s not.
This question gives you the ability to assess your situation better. Just like when you were a kid, the understanding helps take the fear away. It helps you think about the actions that you’d like to take, so you can get beyond the anxiousness and make a plan that gets at the core of the issue.
It’s inevitable; things don’t always go as planned. In most cases, there are many ways that things can work out. And, sometimes, that worst case scenario does occur. By facing this possibility in advance, you’re so much more prepared for anything else that follows.
What’s something that’s causing you anxiety or stress this week? Ask yourself: what’s the worst that could happen?
Leave a comment and tell me what you think. Remember, if you can handle the worst, then heck yes, you can handle the rest.