We’ve all heard it. The voice from that little naysayer in your head. You’re not good enough. Not smart enough. Not worthy enough.
Renowned researcher and author Brené Brown refers to it as “the voice that keeps you small.”
As we talked about last month, this negative self-talk can really have an impact. It’s tough when you want to pursue a goal, and you keep getting stalled by that little voice telling you that somehow you’re not enough. Some of you shared with me your ‘imposter syndrome’ fears and asked for more tips on how to keep that voice at bay.
One way to shut that voice down is to explore the opposite reality. While folks like to say, “Think positive!” that isn’t always enough. Instead, try flipping your viewpoint into the positive and start looking for evidence of the opposite reality. Train your brain to find your successes– there are likely more than you think.
For example, instead of saying, “I’m never going to be able to lose weight,” try thinking of it as, “I am entirely capable of losing weight.” Then, take a look at your life and see what evidence there is to support this new reality. Maybe you went to the gym instead of happy hour or opted to walk to work. Give yourself credit for it!
When you start looking for evidence, you’re actively shifting your thoughts. You’re making your brain more aware of what you *can* do, and you’ll be more likely to notice these instances in the future. And, by increasing your positive thoughts, you’ll also be more likely to continue on with the positive behavior.
In most cases, you hold a limiting belief that’s encouraging you to think negatively about your situation. And it’s called a limiting belief because of just that, it’s not true! The more that you can look for evidence that shows *why* it’s not true, the more that you’ll break down that belief.
Here are some more common examples on how to reframe your brain for success. Remember, when you reframe your brain to find positive evidence, more of it will actually come to be.
|Instead of||Try saying|
|I’m not smart enough.||I am capable of learning new things. I taught myself how to ____.|
|No one ever listens to me.||It’s unfortunate that this person isn’t interested in my point of view. At work, several people agree with me about ___.|
|Everything is going to go wrong.||While __ didn’t go as I had hoped, I can handle any challenge.|
|I can only achieve ___ once I have ____.||Nothing is stopping me from achieving my goals. I am entirely capable.|